A bride-to-be has expressed her disappointment after her grandparents decided not to attend either of her two upcoming weddings.
The woman shared her feelings in a post on Reddit’s “Bridezillas” forum, explaining that she will be hosting two weddings this summer—one in Canada and another in Europe. Despite having two celebrations, her grandparents chose to skip both events.
“Am I being a bridezilla by being hurt that they aren’t attending either wedding?” she asked.
She explained that her grandparents split their time between Canada and Europe, spending six months in each location. They plan to leave for Europe next week, which means they will miss her June wedding in Canada.
“They leave for Europe on Saturday but couldn’t they have waited just one more month to come to my wedding?” she wondered.
The bride’s second wedding will take place in a different European country than where her grandparents live. They declined to make the short journey by train or plane to attend that ceremony as well.
She noted that her grandparents are not very old and remain active, so travel would not be difficult for them. Her parents even offered to meet them at the airport and provide a rental car, but the grandparents still chose not to come.
“They go to Europe every year, so this isn’t new. I’m the first grandchild, and probably the only one, to get married,” she added. She also said her grandparents were informed about the weddings well in advance—before they booked their travel plans.
Instead of attending, her grandparents sent money as a wedding gift to the bride’s mother. However, the bride felt too upset to accept it and worried that her refusal made her mother feel like the “bad guy.”
“Is it wrong to expect my grandparents to be at my wedding? Was I acting like a bridezilla?” she asked the forum.
Many commenters sympathized with the bride. One user wrote, “It doesn’t make you a bridezilla—it makes you a hurt granddaughter.” They added that she cannot force anyone to attend her wedding but admitted they found the grandparents’ refusal “a little strange.”
Another commenter encouraged the bride to accept the gift, saying, “It is their loss, not yours.” Others urged her to focus on the friends and family who will be there to celebrate with her.
The post highlights the complex emotions that come with planning weddings and the pain when loved ones choose not to attend.
